If you feel you may have fallen into the trap of toxic traits and overly emotional partner, it is time to ask yourself, “am I a victim of love bombing?” At times, the red flags might not be too visible, but they are present and as manipulative as abuse.
So, what is love bombing? When your partner or date is being too straightforward with their lovey-dovey emotions at the initial phase, then you may call it love bombing. Do you have a partner who you have recently begun dating, spamming you with texts and calls to check you under the disguise of care and love? Then it may not be a healthy sign. Or if your partner sends you notes and flowers or gifts to your office, you may tend to see it as a sweet gesture, but this could be a potential red flag.
There are no direct signs of manipulation in love bombing. Although, you might find traces of gaslighting. So, how do we know the signs of love bombing from the get-go?
The “I Love You” Left Their Lips Too Early
Sure, who would not want their crush to say the 3 magic words? However, too soon can be too much. The question arises, what do they know about you, other than how you look and a few of your likings/dislikings? Someone dropping the L bomb too quick might mean that they are trying to reel you in before you opt for other choices. Keep your eyes out for how desperate they are to hear your feedback. If you receive no ample space to think this through, it is best to take some steps back.
Romantic Gestures feel More Like Show-Offs.
While we do dream of grand gestures of love and romance, a bit too much at the initial phase of the relationship may feel pressed or overbearing. This is a potential red flag that we often tend to miss. For example, the person you are dating for a month surprises you with tickets to a concert in another city that is far away. However, paid-for tickets at this early stage as a sign of love might feel too overwhelming especially as you may feel emotionally and even financially liable to oblige.
Discussions about Marriage and Future Life are Already Afloat
Is your new date discussing marriage and children right after a few months of being together? This might be a red flag for love bombing. Affectionate discussions of last names are sweet till they go into the planning phase when you are just getting to know each other. Moreover, if someone shows you love and affection without paying heed to your comfort, it is a possible red flag. Additionally, fast-paced wedding plans to quickly tie a knot might reflect on their careless judge of character. This is as they are not taking into account how comfortable you are in carrying on the discussion during a flirtatious meet.
Am I a Victim of Love Bombing?
If reading this piece makes you think of someone or your current relationship, then it’s time to pause and have a talk. It might be time to check if you are a possible victim of love bombing. The unfortunate part is, sometimes the intense love might be genuine without any ulterior motive. However, the abusive and controlling one’s might be able to sway you away with lavishing love. Meaning, you might unknowingly turn a blind eye to the abusive behaviour due to their tactical love bomb droppings. Therefore, when you get the first hint, it is best to make your move and hit the road.
