It is the prevalent attitude and insecurity of women that makes men feel a sense of shame. We are trained to believe that sex is only activity between a man and a woman. The self-pleaser is removed in some way. Although we have become a more enlightened society, these contradictory notions exist to a certain degree. Adult sex toys for women are seen as objects used only by a subversive subset and “normal” couples are not required to increase their sex play.