Ever feel like you just don’t have the time to go out four times a week, for several hours, to get good social skills and pick up women? Well, you’re not alone. In this article I’m gonna go through the bare essentials of how to pick up women, even if you think you are too busy.
If you’re anything like me then modern life has so much going on that it really can be a struggle to find the time to get this part of your life handled. Between work, family, friends, weddings, college, Family Guy, new films, reddit.com, and guitar practice there sometimes just doesn’t seem to be enough time in the week to do the things you know will improve your dating life.
But fret not, I have compiled a list of the bare-minimum of things you can do, that won’t eat up tons of your time. In fact, many of these things you can integrate into your daily routine.
In fact, the key here is to actually get you doing things that will improve this part of your life without making a special ‘going out time’ to get it done.
The two key things to work on are:
1. Your Confidence.
2. Your Attractiveness to Women.
These two are what I call the ‘maximum leverage’ aspects that you have the power to improve in your life.
Truth is, if you are confident, and you know how to portray yourself in the most attractive light, then to pick up women often becomes merely a matter of logistics.
Ok, so let’s cover confidence first.
Here are some tips to get more confident, that you can implement today:
Start conversations everywhere you go
A simple opener that works everywhere is, “I’m glad I’m not the only one who…”. So for example, you are in the supermarket buying your groceries, you pull up your trolley next to a woman and notice she has brown bread in her trolley, you say, “I’m glad I’m not the only one who likes brown bread.”
Sounds so simple, but often it will get a laugh from the get-go. And then boom, you are in a conversation.
These conversations don’t have to last for longer than a minute or so, the key is to integrate it into your lifestyle and do it as often as you can, wherever you are.
Do something every day that is outside of your comfort zone
There is a lot to be said for the age-old advice of doing one thing a day that scares you. Consistently done, this will totally desensitize you to being afraid of stuff. This is the same way cognitive behavioral therapists successfully treat ex-military personal who have post-traumatic stress disorder.
It’s called progressive deconditioning, and the theory is that the more exposure you get to something that causes you fear, the less the effect will be on you. These ain’t your run-of-the-mill pick up tips.
The key is to start slow. Maybe take a slightly different route home from work one day. Your normal route is your comfort zone. Just go a slightly different way. And build from there.
Maybe the next day you will speak to a shop assistant, and just ask them how their day is going. And then the day after that you may talk to one person using the opener I referred to above.
And so on, just build it up with whatever you are comfortable enough to actually do, but is still on the edge of your comfort zone.
Increasing your attractiveness to women
This is often more a case of not doing unattractive stuff. You don’t need any gimmicky pick up lines. This is all covered in the free mp3 ’7 Deadly Sins of Attraction’ you get when you sign up to my list, which you can do at the bottom of this page.
Listen to that audio, and make sure you recognize and eliminate all those behaviors. This will help you pick up woman.
Secondly, the main things to focus on portraying to women, that will spark attraction in them are the following things:
- Cockiness.
2. Leadership.
3. Protecting your loved ones.
4. Expressing your emotions.
Any chance you get to convey one of these, do it. These are some of the most effective dating tips there are.
Tease them, call them weird, make them laugh at their own incompetence.
Tell stories and demonstrate leadership. Express your feelings. Talk about your family, and convey that you would do anything to look out for them.
The examples are endless, draw them from your own life and include them in your everyday interactions.
So this covers the bare minimum way to improve with dating women and pick up girls. Do the above things, integrate the habits and behaviors into your everyday life, and see how suddenly single women will be interested in you, and you’ll be able to pick up women without spending loads of time going out specifically to meet women.
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