Many people are turning to a swingers club to spice up their relationships. Some couples are just looking for another outlet during the week, while others want to meet new friends outside of their conservative social circles. Either way, many people are finding they enjoy the experience and want to transition into being a full swinger.
Now, before you get all riled up and start purchasing all the sexy outfits, this is not a glorification of swinging. Not at all. Swinging is still considered a taboo in many circles, and people get an awful lot of flack for being part of something they enjoy. Some people even feel it’s borderline sexual misconduct or something that takes away from their marriage covenant.
Regardless of what you feel about swinging or whether you should be a full-fledged swinger, here are 11 things you need to know before going down the swingers’ road.
1) You will bond with your partner – potentially for life. When you open a relationship up to include other partners, you make an incredibly personal choice. You are talking, planning, and spending time with other people who share your interest and, in most cases, become your friend.
- You’ll need to talk about it. A lot. One of the biggest challenges most people face when first discovering swinging is being able to speak openly with their partner. It’s not always an easy thing to do. You might, for example, have a hard time bringing up the topic of swinging.
- You might have to be referred by someone interested in pursuing the same interests. Many clubs require prospective members to be referred by someone already a member in good standing. If you’re opening up to someone very close to you, you may be able to broach the topic without much hesitation.
- There’s a lot of planning and preparation before you go. When you’re ready to go out for the first time, there’s quite a bit of planning and preparation that has to be done. To start with, you’ll need to ensure that both of you are on board with the idea. You might have to have a mature conversation about the idea of swinging and who it would interest.
- You’re going to have to read up on the rules. Many clubs have rules and regulations that you must abide by. You’ll need to know about them before you go for the first time.
- You may get a lot of stares and maybe even a few negative comments. You might find yourself being stared at, which can be uncomfortable. In many cases, you’ll find that you’re not precisely accepted into the community on a “first-time” basis.
- You might not be allowed to go. Some clubs are very strict and won’t let in anyone who hasn’t gone through the proper steps of approval, like reading the club’s rules and regulations, attending a meeting, and perhaps even going through an introduction course.
- You’ll have to be ready to talk about it. When you’re prepared to come out, you’ll need to be willing to tell your partner exactly what you’re looking for and why. Swinging is not the place to say, “Hey, I’m going to play with a bunch of other people.”
- You might be turning down potential partners. The idea of potentially turning someone down is something most people hesitate to do when first entering the swinging world.
- You’ll need to consider safety rules. Swinging is an activity that requires a lot of safety considerations, such as condom use and STD testing.
- You’re going to have to trust one another – more than ever before. Swinging requires a lot of trust. In many cases, you and your partner will have to have an “everything is OK” agreement when you’re swinging. If you don’t, things will be uncomfortable, and it might just ruin the entire experience for everyone.
Not all people are likely to be successful in the swinging world. Going into something like this, it’s important to remember that you’ll take a hit on the ego if you aren’t completely attracted to swinging.
