There are many reasons to seek inspiration, help and guidance, but the most important, in my opinion, is to continue to see and understand each other – and to be able to talk about misunderstandings together, without the need for conflict.
Couples counselling is not just about ‘saving’ or reducing conflict.
Many people go to couples counselling when there are major conflicts in the relationship and they are on the verge of going their separate ways. That they give it a ‘last chance with couples counselling’.
I think that’s a shame. Where couples therapy is most effective is when both parties are motivated to stay together, when both parties still have loving feelings towards each other and when the emotional intensity is tolerable. This is where we are in the loving tolerance window for development.
I offer both couples counselling for conflictual relationships. But I always encourage you to come earlier; when you first encounter an unresolvable knot, ignorering i parforhold. Couples therapy gives you inspiration and tools to be able to talk empathetically, empathise and listen – a good insurance policy for when the next conflict arises in the future.
Couples counselling can therefore be many things, but I like the expression ‘a mental teeth cleaning for the relationship’: it’s common, sensible and increases the chance of staying together in the long run. In a couple therapy programme, I tailor it to your joint and individual wishes.
Among the methods and themes I work with are:
– Mirroring, increased linguistic awareness in the relationship
– Mentalisation and non-violent communication
– Sexological counselling for sexual challenges.
– Breaking trust, infidelity and healing old wounds
– Emotion-focused and cognitive couple therapy
– Clarification of communication patterns
– Practical exercises to increase intimacy, play, love and closeness.
Start your conscious journey together.
You are very welcome to contact me if you want to start a journey of couple therapy together, whether you are doing it as a preventive ‘teeth cleaning’ and to get even closer to each other, or whether it is to be able to talk about the difficult or conflict-filled. You will meet an open and welcoming therapist who makes a virtue of making you both feel equally welcomed and heard. At the same time, you can also expect ongoing interventions and loving feedback.
