Maybe you’re one of the thousands of guys that have given up on women and the seduction community. Or maybe you’re one of the guys that are on the verge of quitting because you have approached hundreds of women, and don’t seem to be getting anywhere. Either way, you’re pretty fed up with the seduction community, you’re fed up with gurus, and you’re fed up with the way women act like they can’t even go on one single date with you.
Before we begin, let’s assume that you have your confidence together. Let’s assume that you have your weight under control. Let’s assume that you’re not a complete weirdo who can’t hold a decent conversation. And let’s assume that you dress pretty stylishly, and are pretty on point with your grooming and regular body maintenance. Overall, let’s just assume that there’s nothing about you that would make a woman want to run for the hills. Seeing that “game” still isn’t working for you, is there anything that you can do to turn the tide with women?
Yes. Yes, there is. Let’s talk about how I typically approach women. When I approach, I am honest, and I just try to present my best self. I don’t really mess around with routines, I don’t really try to impress a girl, and I don’t try to trick her into liking me or giving me her phone number. Pretty much, I just approach, let a girl know that I think she is attractive, and I have a normal conversation with her.
Is that it? Yes. And surprisingly, it works most of the time, and it’s why I completely abandoned most verbal “game”. You see, there are a VERY large number of women out there that are the “Notebook” type who just want to fall in love. And when you approach them the way that I do, they think “Wow. This guy is confident, honest, he isn’t trying to impress me, he can hold a decent conversation, and overall, he’s pretty well put together.”. In other words, I present myself as a very likable guy, and I don’t give them much to not like about me.
Let’s talk about a set I approached last week, and a set I approached on Thursday. With the set from last week, I watched my buddy go up to them and get rejected. What did I do? I just walked up to one of the girls, told her that I thought she was attractive, and tried to get to know her. We ended up talking outside of the bar for about thirty minutes after the bar had already closed. She didn’t want me to leave because she thought that I was, and I quote, “a very charming guy”. She actually asked me out on a date.
Now let’s talk about the set that I approached on Thursday. My friend was afraid to approach, so I approached the set for him. I walked up to the girls, told them that I don’t mean to interrupt their conversation, and let them know that I came over because I thought they were attractive and wanted to get to know them. The girls told me that I wasn’t interrupting anything, smiled, and we had a nice conversation until I introduced my buddy and left to observe him in set.
Other than that very last set from from Friday night (see the previous post), this was pretty much how I approached every set, and you know what? Every single set stayed and talked to me for as long as I wanted to talk. And the ones that I gave my number to, actually called me (I have a girlfriend, so I didn’t go out with any of them). Sometimes I am an asshole, but most of the time I am just nice. Not nice in the nervous, trying to please a girl sense, but nice in a confident I’m letting you know that I am attracted to you, and I’m not going to try to impress you to make you like me, sense.
If you seem like you’re confident, not trying to fool women with your gimmicks and shows of bravado, and have yourself well put together, a surprisingly high number of women will actually go out with you. Why? Because you’re not coming at them like every other guy that is either trying to impress, a complete jerk, or lacks a spinal cord like the typical nice guy. Never forget that most women want to fall in love, and when you’re confident, charming, and well put together, it is very easy for them to take a chance falling in love with you. This is how I get a very high number of my women. No game necessary.
References:
From the bleachers on Manning Up
The one shit test you should know is coming
How to Travel while on Your Period
