At a conference call last night, the moderator asked if anyone was on the prowl. We all laughed, until she explained that this is a common term used by teleseminar moderators. When someone is on the prowl, it means they are listening to the discussion, but have not made their presence known.

And then, it made me wonder: how many people are Fringe activities for events in life, listening, but not really making their presence known?

How could this be? Well, this person may enjoy being close to activities or meetings, but probably does not contribute much to participation or conversation. Most likely, they keep their inner thoughts to themselves and are not willing to express their wishes, needs or ideas.

They may be concerned about the rejection of their ideas or of becoming too vulnerable if they share their wishes and needs. But whatever their reason, they do not live fully, they do not allow their inner light to shine, they are not authentic with others. And as such, they don’t feel the joy and peace that comes from living an authentic and connected life.

Joseph Campbell said: “People say that what we are all looking for is a meaning for life. I think what we are looking for is an experience of being alive.”

To feel alive, feel vital and vibrant, it is necessary to participate in your own life, allow your inner self to express yourself in the world, share who you are with others and connect on a real level. It is crucial to be seen and valued for who you really are. And that can’t happen if you’re on the prowl on the outskirts of life.

If this sounds good to you, I encourage you to overcome the fear, since the benefits are excellent and certainly worth it. Of course it will take a while to get used to it, but in the end, you will have genuine connections with others who see you and value you for who you are.

So what happens if you make some mistakes while trying? All of that is part of the process of learning a new way of being. George Bernard Shaw said: “A life dedicated to making mistakes is not only more honorable, but more useful than a life dedicated to doing nothing.”

So go ahead and get out there. Let others know you, the real you, the inside of you. Share yourself. Express yourself. And choose to stop stalking and start living!

Elise Fee is a hypnotist consultant and life mentor: her business “EliseOnLife” helps clients obtain a new life opportunity: Elise works with clients through private consultations, either in person or by phone.

With extensive experience in business, marketing and teaching, Elise’s varied life experiences have taught her broader and more expansive ways of seeing and experiencing the world and humanity.