Inner child healing, also known as inner child therapy, is a vital part of the psychoanalytic or spiritual process of transforming yourself through the Ages into the person you desire to be. By its very nature, inner child therapy works with the child’s confusion and fears about whom you truly are. It asks the inner child what do you really want to be, what kind of person do you want to be, and how can you get there? As your child begins to answer these questions, it is not uncommon that the child may become emotionally vulnerable and in emotional pain. You will find that they will often express these emotions during your sessions.
This delicate balance between being compassionate and being empathic, along with a clear connection to our body and true feelings helps our children to heal. Inner child healing works with both physical and emotional aspects of healing and is very effective in achieving this goal. It allows for healing to take place while we are living our lives in the moment rather than focusing on what is missing or regretting our past actions. The process of healing is made easier when we have found a way to connect with our inner child and allow for healing to occur.
We all have some degree of inner child healing within ourselves. It is our natural state to heal in this way. When we heal childhood wounds, it can take some time before our conscious mind can accept that it has gone past some difficult years. In fact, many of us hold onto those painful feelings from our childhood including anger, sadness, and shame.
We all have the ability to feel great about our life experiences in these early years but holding these feelings over our heads and letting them run free causes us discomfort and even some degree of regret. This inner child healing is not helped by our ability to separate those feelings from our bodies and let them take precedence. Inner child meditation helps to get the feelings we have out of our systems and enables us to then move on to letting go of them.
Inner child meditation utilizes mindfulness meditation as well as other proven methods to help you connect to your inner child. Mindfulness meditation is a form of self-awareness exercise. Through this form of meditation, you will be able to become mindful of the breath going in and the breath going out. By being mindful of your breathing patterns you are less likely to get distracted by the emotions and feelings that arise. You can then apply self-awareness to these feelings so they do not have the power to control your thought patterns.
Children often say things such as, “I am so hurt.” However, when your child says this to you, she is not connecting with her inner child healing. Instead, she is connecting with all of the painful emotions she has experienced and there is a fear that she may be hurt again. The best way for you to help your wounded child heal is to help her to release all of the painful emotions first. As your child releases the negative emotions from her body, she will also release the wound or the bruises from her past.
It is also important to recognize that inner child healing does not change your child’s external appearance. The difference between the expression on your child’s face and the expression on the outside world is completely dependent on what the child is feeling inside. Your child’s expression is an expression of the pain she is experiencing. If your child is angry at something, she may cry or she may put up a wall of defense by putting up expressions such as finger pointing. These expressions serve to keep her safe from the anger that she feels.
However, if your child is able to connect with her inner child healing and release all of the painful emotions, she can then connect with the painful emotions of others in a much healthier way. You can help your child learn how to release and heal by supporting her in this process. If you are experiencing some of the same feelings as your child, remember that there are other beings who have suffered less than we have. You may have suffered more than they have, but the vast majority of people in the world have suffered some degree of emotional abuse. Healing our attachments to these other beings begins with understanding how our bodies relate to these other beings.
